tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5081532889780590652.post2848143253733022091..comments2023-10-07T02:14:25.097-07:00Comments on Look No Tubes: The bookSushigirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15692271287979209910noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5081532889780590652.post-38059463109676840092014-02-11T11:52:46.532-08:002014-02-11T11:52:46.532-08:00I don't have any good advice, but I wanted to ...I don't have any good advice, but I wanted to say I'm thinking of you and hoping you and your mother can reach some kind of an agreement. I think changing names would be a completely reasonable step. Hugs! MutemockingbirdAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5081532889780590652.post-84078809624029264672014-02-08T16:01:46.216-08:002014-02-08T16:01:46.216-08:00What would I do? Goodness, I can't think. Do...What would I do? Goodness, I can't think. Do you think your mother would agree to just privately printing/publishing a hard copy for herself? (And members of the family/friends who might want a copy). There are lots of book printing places online (I'm going to print my Lemons Limoncello travel blog into a book as a keepsake) where you can do it privately.<br /><br />It's obvious she's written this for therapy (though how helpful that has been is of course another matter), and it sounds like she's always wanted to reach out, so it might be hard to convince her of the benefits of a private publication. But the legal issues of mentioning people by name without their permission, or of any accusations she makes, could get complicated. Would they deter her do you think? Or is it that she has seen this as a way to grieve or somehow get some "closure" (horrible word) and so cannot be deterred?<br /><br />I guess it depends on whether your mother can be reasoned with. Calmly, helpfully, pointing out difficult issues, legal issues, the impact on your sister, on you, etc. Or asking her if she has thought of getting a professional to edit it/look over it? Or anything else that might end up as a barrier to publication. <br /><br />My final thought is - how computer literate is she? Can you offer to help with the publication, secretly ensuring that it has very limited exposure, delaying etc? That might sound underhand, but I think there comes a time when we have to take control of our parents! <br /><br />Really sorry you're having to deal with this, along with everything else in your life at the moment.<br /><br />Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5081532889780590652.post-5053171742997360352014-02-08T11:33:21.523-08:002014-02-08T11:33:21.523-08:00*hugs* No good advice, but I do agree with Valery....*hugs* No good advice, but I do agree with Valery. Just want to let you know that someone is here and feels for you.JustHeatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05373768249873098150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5081532889780590652.post-62780002695502947962014-02-07T11:17:25.961-08:002014-02-07T11:17:25.961-08:00If only the Otter of Doom would eat the pages of t...If only the Otter of Doom would eat the pages of the e-book. <br />Well done on reading it so quickly.<br />What would I do... I think the fact that it is badly written is an advantage in a way: it might stop people from reading the book for more than a handful of pages. I'm not sure how internet savvy your mother is, and I have a feeling it might be hard to attract readers anyway. (i would do some research on that though)<br />Then I would suggest that real names cannot be used without permission, that 'to protect the family' she should at least alter/ make the names ungoogleable.<br />I think trying to stop her from publishing could be more trouble than it's worth (especially given the fact that you have mentioned pigheadedness before, multiple times. Deflecting might work, stopping not so much. Maybe warning her to not put (too much) contact details, because of internet weirdos/stalkers/you name it?)<br /><br />So sorry that this car keeps crashing over and over.Valeryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10210187335704409247noreply@blogger.com